Practically speaking, or, What It All Means

I don't think that I am afraid of death. Perhaps, though, my very lack of fear is merely the clearest indication that I have not yet accepted this inevitability, but considering how many funerals I have been to in the past 4 years, and that I was present for one person's final moments, I find it unlikely that that is the case. Two friends, in just over two years, have left long before it seemed their time, and with both, I received the news by phone. I have been thinking today about how similar my reactions were in both instances, and wondering at what this may mean. Both times I knew, seconds before I heard the words, what the terrible news would be, and both times I asked first how the caller was: "Are you alright?" And both times I reassured the caller that, yes yes, I was fine, and wasn't it sad, and oh, how her family must be handling it, only to immediately call my husband and sob into the phone about how she was gone. She was just...gone.

I am surpassingly astonished by humanity's sheer strength of will and ability to persevere in the face of overwhelming odds, and overwhelming reality. And yet, I am - with every loss - surprised by my own depth of feeling, and profound sorrow. I forget, as I hear the words that a friend, a coworker, a teammate, has died that the loss is not only one of her company, of her presence, but also of the very knowledge of her, of her merely being. I forget what great comfort I take in the thought that good people simply are, that they are in the world and are contributing to it with their wisdom, their humour, their kindness, their living. And so, when a good person is lost, I may not have lost a very close friend, a daily confidant or constant companion, but I have lost the assurance that - at least - that goodness is somewhere, and the comfort that the wealth of possibility and potential borne up in that soul will actualize itself over the course of a long and vibrant lifetime.

I have never felt, upon the death of someone near or dear to me, any inclination to participate in wild or senseless acts out of some sense of necessity to "live life!". But I do wonder, now, in the wake of another loss of another young life, what purpose there is in waiting to do....well, anything. My practicality dictates that now is not a good time for a child, but my experience tells me that there is no "good" time, and that, too often, our time is shorter than we'd planned. I do not want to live my life in fear of death, constantly acting in an attempt to cheat death of it's anthropomorphic desire to cheat me of living, but, likewise, I do not want to fail to live out of the fear of living unwisely or unstrategically.

I want to learn something from this, to take into myself some piece of wisdom or philosophy from which I can take direction and some solace in the knowledge that these losses are not meaningless, not without some worth, somehow.

I want the finality of these lives to have purpose, as these young women did in living.

Jump up from my starbed and make another day underneath my California stars, or, Suzi

There are some very effective ways to ruin a beautiful summer day.

After several days of blistering, humid, drippy heatwave, today we have a break in the weather. It is sunny. It is breezy. It is comfortable and shining and lovely. And Suzi isn't here to enjoy it.

In the autumn of 2001 I was in my third year of undergrad, and I needed a job. I found one in the Glebe, an upscale, somewhat trendy, totally yuppified area of Ottawa, at a housewares store. It was nifty and cool, and had fun staff. Including Suzi. She only worked Thursday and Friday evenings because she had a day job at Carleton, working in the office of the very department I attended,and she was cool and funny and thoughtful and smart and interested in the same sorts of things I was. She knew the profs I knew, and had been to parties with them on occasion, maybe sparked up with one or two in particular. She had a nice boyfriend who was a musician and in a band, and she frequented the Aloha room, a tiny bar on the Bank St. strip most weekends. I looked forward to seeing her on our shifts together. She was taking undergrad classes part-time at Carleton, as well, slowing earning a degree in Religion, and we commiserated about the oddities of the faculty, and the pomposity of writers like Mircea Eliade.

And four years later I left the store and got a better job, a series of better jobs, and never really went back because the manager and I didn't really get along and I didn't want to see her again, so I never saw Suzi again, either.

Just last week, I was thinking about how I should start making arrangements to get started on finishing the last two credits for my degree, and how I'll have to call the department, and I wonder if Suzi is still their administrator, and did she ever finish up her degree, either?

Today I got a call from a dear friend whom I also know from working at that store, and she told me that Suzi has had cancer, and that she died on Tuesday at a hospice.

And it just isn't fair, that she was only married a short time to James, the love of her life; and it isn't fair that she never got to use all the knowledge she was gaining, all the wisdom she was cultivating. It isn't fair that she was only a few years older than me and now she's gone. It isn't fair that her husband is widowed before he's 30.

I wish I'd spent time with her, I wish I had made a point of getting in touch with her, but there's only so much time in a given week, and how am I supposed to know which of my friends is going to die young? We always think there will be more time. That's why people are stupid. We are really, really stupid, because we just don't get it, we just can't keep it in our heads that there is a finiteness to our time here, and we had better spend it the way we ought to, or we're just wasting space.

I left work early, because I had to, and I walked the long way to the bus. Traveling east, out of the core of the city towards the canal, the long, narrow swath of dark water that runs through the city, I soaked up sunshine and breathed cool, dry, fresh air, and it was pretty. Across the footbridge that connects the east and west sides of the canal, I looked north to the heart of the city, to the very centre of our nation, and appreciated how beautiful this place is, and how lucky I really, truly am to live here, to see it every day. And I listened to Wilco, with Jeff Tweedy singing Woody Guthrie's words, one song over and over again, because it felt like a song that Suzi liked, and it was simple and beautiful and uncomplicated, the way she was.




There's a hole in the world, now. And I don't know how to fill it up.

Unbelievable, or, What's Relative About This Humidity?!

It is 32 degrees. With the humidity, it feels like 39.

Ugh.

Happy day, or, Celebrate good times!

**Please note: I have put little-to-no thought into the construction of this post. My writing skills have, apparently, degenerated quite severely. It's unfortunate, and I am grieving for the loss of my brain. Bye-bye brain...it was nice to know you.**

Finally, I am connected to the world during the work day! Working an entire week without internet or phone was, frankly, bizarre, and rather unpleasant. Now I can waste the organization's time productively!

Fun and games have occurred since my last post. I had a birthday. Generally speaking, I do not look forward to the time of year known as "Late June". Why? you ask? Well, my birthday usually falls within - at most - 9 days of Father's Day. This wouldn't be a problem, except that my father broke up with my mother - and admitted to his 9 month-long affair - only days before Father's Day (and therefore, my birthday) in 2000. Happy 20th birthday, Darlene. Needless to say, my birthday was pretty low-key that year. Since then, my birthdays have been a little disappointing, with the exception, of course, of my 22nd birthday, which occurred the same day as my dear friends', Katie and Mike, wedding. Which kicked ass, by the way. It was fabulous. A booze-fueled, celtic-punk-soundtracked event that concluded with my friend Eileen (whose birthday was the next day) and I hanging out with members of the band and antagonizing resaurant staff at the local 24-hour diner. Brilliant night. Fond memories.

Anyway, other than that year - which required no actual effort on my part to make enjoyable - I haven't really looked forward to my birthday in some time. This year was no different. I was happy with 25, really happy with it. And I was alright with 26. But 27? I didn't feel ready for it, not really, not yet, so I wasn't particularly pleased to round the corner on the week and find myself staring down the barrel of my birthday. But some small, pleasant things happened to warm me to the idea, or, more accurately, indicate that it made no difference. For example: I went to our local Bulk Barn (oh! how I love Bulk Barn! barrels of bulk food, cheaply priced and easily found!) for some random things (I think I ended up with popcorn, Smarties, and falafel mix) and as I came out, there were about half-a-dozen high school aged skater-types hanging around in front of the store. And as I walked away to my car, they start hooting, catcalling. Now, as a feminist, I object to the objectification of women, and to male-types thinking that they can just get away with doing and saying whatever they want to women. HOWEVER, I think that many things are contextual, and when we're talking about a few 17 yo's and a grown woman, and they aren't doing or saying anything truly impolite, offensive, or threatening (last I checked "Whoo!" wasn't scary) I'm willing to cut a little slack. And, sadly, I must admit, it was a little validating to think I maybe don't look "old", or even my age. Sometimes I feel like I look older than I am (I have fatigue issues, and really fair, thin skin, so there are some dark under-eye-circle issues). Then The Man made fun of me when I got home and told him: "Oh no: you're turning into one of those women who needs the validation of younger men". Excuse me, Mister I-Go-To-The-Beer-Store-In-Shorts-and-a-Ball-Cap-and-Get-Carded-Even-Though-I'm-31.

But the birthday itself was good! It started with a nice haul of presents (first season of The OC! Whee! and another one I will introduce shortly....) and a shirt I had picked up the day before, so I felt pretty (always a good thing!). That evening we had dinner with The Man's best friend, He-Who-Shall-Be-Called-Chuck, at a newish restaurant in Westboro, Juniper. Oh. My. Such good food. Ottawa's answer to trendy haute cuisine. They actually thought - really thought - about vegetarian food. There was only one veggie main (though one fish and one seafood main as well, so there are certainly options for my fellow pesco's out there) it was delightful. Nifty, impressive, unexpected, delish. Cheap? Not on your life, but worth every penny for nice veg food I didn't have to make myself. And on a plate!! No bowls. I get so tired of people always resorting to the bowled meal for veggies.

Then on to the Manx. At first, it looked a little like we'd be the only ones there. We scammed a booth, and then felt guilty about occupying the space of 8-10 people when it was only the two of us (HWSBCC was double-booked for another party). But people showed! Old friends I hadn't seen in a while, dear friends I see all the time...it was a great evening. My tiniest friend even chilled with us for a bit, which was great, because she's a sweetie.

Saturday we had a birthday dinner with the fam. A 'Que over at Mum's with the FIL as well. And how much do I love my Amazon list! FIL gave me knitting books! Ooooh......and mum gave me a gift cert to my fave LYS! Yarn and patterns....luverly!

And Sunday we had a shower for the Sis, who will be married in 18 days. It's insanely soon. It was a good time. I got to meet the flowergirl, whom I had never met before, but about whom I had heard much, and see her mother, who has been friends with the Sis since high school. Good times.

And now I'm working. With a chair intended for much larger people, and a folding table for a desk, my whiplash injury is NOT happy. I'm thinking that since I've wasted, oh, a while, writing this post, I will try to make it to 2-3pm before calling it quits. I can already feel my muscles spazzing out on me. Urgh.

All in all, a good weekend, a good birthday. I have other stuff to write but, enh...it'll keep.

Happy days, or, A Return to our Regularly Scheduled Programming

Good week. Good, good week. I'm back at work - finally! - and Monday, when I returned, my trainer had a paycheque for me! I had assumed that, because I hadn't been able to complete and return my paperwork to get onto the direct deposit payroll system due to my incredibly stonedness the previous week, that I would have to wait another two weeks. Silly me. So I got to have a little fun this week. I got a new cd, one of many I've been itching to get. You may recall I mentioned the artist. Let's refresh our memories, shall we?



Oh, yeah.

Seriously, though, he's pretty awesome. Fantastic alt-country, light on the alt, but done right. Lots of well-played guitar and banjo and mando. Super.

So then I went to Starbuck's and got myself a mug. A shiny new travel mug. I don't have a pic. It's blue. It's not really all that interesting. But *this* was pretty cool. It was parked outside the 'Buck's.



Isn't it cute? It's such a great shade of turquoise. I think I would like to hook myself up with a cruiser when we move into the city. Pedal to work in the morning, up and down the canal. Good times.

So on Tuesday we moved to our brand-y-new office. And look what was outside, just to make the move a little more interesting:



*Grrr...why is that one pic a different size? Gah!*

Hollywood! Some film called "Kiss Me Goodnight" was filming across the street from our office. Almost directly in front, in fact, and was occupying the entire city block. Whole thing was blocked off. Very inconvenient for us, considering we had boxes of files and a computer and a ginormous server to move into the space. Luckily there was a round-about way to get into the building, so no hard feelings, little film!

More to come. Off to bed.

Something pretty, or, Ooh, isn't he dreamy!!

I'm nothing if not obsessive.

Go here. Play the second song. Repeat 40 times. That's my afternoon.



Isn't it wonderful?

Doesn't hurt that he's hunky, now does it?

Hoser, or, The Way Things Are

I haven't much to blog, since the past 7 days haven't seen me do very much except sit/lay/lounge and feel, well, somewhere between drunk and stoned.* But I have done some knitting. It's been a little slow, with all the druuuugs, but there has been definite progress on the FBIL's hose. Let's have a look, shall we?



Here they are, frolicking in the suburban jungle. Two pattern repeats are complete on the centre-front of the hose, and almost two of the pattern on the sides of the hose. And thank heaven's for Cristi's fabulous pattern-row markers!! Thank you for inventing these and sharing with the knitty world!! They have been a total lifesaver.

My life has become these hose. Today I watched the last 20 minutes of Once Upon A Time in America and worked on the hose. Then I watched CSI:NY...and worked on the hose. Then I watched The Magnificent Seven...and worked on the hose. And then I watched a show on TLC with Stacey London...and worked on the hose. There's a pattern, you see.

Must finish hose. Must. Finish. Hose.

*Not that I have any idea what it is like to be stoned. Nope, no way.

Missing Wit, or, Too Drugged to Care

Sleepy. Stoned. Muscle relaxants are....weird.

We lost the Stanley Cup last night. I'm so drugged up, I hardly care. I slept through the final period and didn't even see us lose.

We should eat dinner. I don't feel like cooking. Anyone want to decide what I should have? And then deliver it to me? And possibly help me eat it?

So. Much. Drugs.

You come Crash! Into me...or, Full Documentation

Last 18 hours have equaled NO FUN! Check it out:

As you can see, our car (with The Man and I in it) has had an adventure. Last night we were driving West on the 174 when traffic backed up rather suddenly. We stopped fairly sharply, but with space enough to be very safe between us and the car ahead of us. The Man exclaims "Oh, sh!t..." and then we were slammed from behind. I don't know how quickly the guy in the Honda Civic was going, and I don't know that he was on his cell (although The Man thought he saw a mobile up to his ear through the rear-view) but I do know that we were hit violently. We were launched forward, The Man slammed onto the brake (his foot was jarred loose in the impact) and steered toward the guard-rail to avoid the car ahead of us, although he/she appeared to move forward to avoid a pile-up. We were all alright. My head was sore from banging it on the headrest (fortunately we had both at the right heights) and we both felt rather queasy from the adrenaline intoxication, and I was feeling a little spacey and light-headed. While The Man exchanged info with the hitter (as we were the hittees) I called the police, and my grandmother, who were going to visit for dinner. The cop who attended was great. It was about 10C ouside, and raining, but he seemed very comfortable in short-sleeves under his Kevlar, and sort of yelled everything. He was cool. I liked him. The hitter was charged with dangerous driving, and after about an hour we were all back on our way (both vehicles, fortunately, were still drivable, though looking pretty wretched). On to Mama's and some standard Italian up the street from her place. The Man had pizza, I had chicken parmigiana (normally I avoid chicken, but darnitall, I wanted something hot and comforting and cheesy) and a nice visit with my grandmother. She's pretty fabulous, helping us out with fending off the government for my student loan debt. No collection agents for us!! Yippee!

The Man and I visited the clinic today to get checked out, and got a prescription for anti-inflammatories and muscle relaxants. We're alright, but finding that our injuries are slowly surfacing as time passes. Sore necks, sore backs, sore heads, sore shoulders, and lots of little nerve-y twinges to remind us that drivers often suck. Thank GOD! We left The Remarkable Wembley at home.

And I have a renewed appreciation for the time I spent at the Insurance law-firm. I called my old boss there, a fantastic young lawyer, and asked for some direction to avoid missing any important steps in dealing with this. While I hate how litigious Western society has become, at the same time, if this crash has any long-term effects, I will pursue some sort of compensation. We have both lost a day of work, and in no way is our physical discomfort decreasing. And heaven forbid I should have some sort of knitting-preventing injury! Whatever would I do?!

I apologise for the verbose and boring post. Have a fantastic, crash-free day. I'm going to snuggle my puppy for the afternoon.

Overwhelming enthusiasm, or, An Afternoon in Ottawa

The honking and general noise-making has - intermittently - begun on the main drag through my particular end of the city. In anticipation of Game 3 against Anaheim, you see.

*I don't know if you are enjoying my Bard-esque title posts as much as I am, but I have no intention of stopping! I have always thought the title Twelfth Night, or, What You Will made very little obvious sense, and thus, I have always loved it. So I'm trying it. And it's fun!*

Go Sens!

Is it always a terrible thing, or, The View Out My Window

For the past day or so, I've been thinking about gentrification. I believe that I currently work in an area which is undergoing gentrification, and it's really making me think.

Gentrification is one of those hot-button issues to which there appear to be two sides, and no real middle-ground. But the question which I cannot seem to fully reconcile, is whether it is, in fact, always a bad thing.

I recently read this post on the fabulous blog, Feministing, in which gentrification is most certainly argued to be a very bad thing. Wikipedia's article states that opponents to gentrification have proposed that it solves no problems, that the crime is not solved, but simply moved to a different area of the city. Perhaps.

If gentrification is the raising of property values - and thus, the value of a neighbourhood as a whole - could it not be argued that going about "cleaning up" an urban area is a form of gentrification, perhaps the first step to an all-out gentrified neighbourhood? How, then, do we account for the results of NYC's implementation of Catherine Coles and George L. Kelling's criminology and urban sociology theories, and the positive results that were effected (I know, I know, another Wikipedia link...I'm at work, I don't have time to search for links)? When petty and serious crime rates drop, property values climb, and when property values climb, so do housing rates, and we see...gentrification! But can we really argue that reducing crime rates is a bad thing? No! Of course not!

All that said, though, lower-income people, people on disability, on EI, on Social Assistance, sometimes the newly immigrated, or the mentally handicapped need affordable housing, and often need it to be in the city centre (where the highest density of jobs can be found, and public transit is ample).

So how do we balance these? And how am I supposed to feel when I look out of my Bronson Ave. former-Immaculata-High-School office window into the backyards of a row of tidy townhouse condo's, circa approx. 2002? When I walk past the other 80 or so that can be found on the nearby streets? The buildings torn down to allow the space for these new houses were quite possibly old, run-down, abandoned, unsafe, or highly damaged by vandals. And it isn't as though these townhouses are huge, sprawling manors, just little two- and three-story homes, suitable for an average-sized family.

Someone scraping by on EI and food shelters isn't going to be able to afford to live there. But I feel much more comfortable walking to the bus down those streets, than the streets that have not received the same attention. What does that say about me?

Kilts, or, How I Spent My Weekend

Supervising and helping out at the studio during the dance exams was fun, but resulted in...a lot of empty time. But, lucky me! I have a way to fill that time. Between the weekend and two hours bus riding every day this week, I have made some real headway on the FBIL's kilt hose.



I saw my boss/dance teacher this evening, and she told me that all of my dancers passed their exams, and most did very well. I'm quite pleased!

The new job is going well. We've been keeping "banker's hours" for the past three days, which has made for a nice, gradual way to work myself back into having a full-time job. I am the database master! And I'm enjoying it! Weird...

Hmm, what else...Oh! I should talk about the knitting! Ok, so the feet are almost done. Hopefully I'll be able to get them done tonight while watching the Senators kick some Duck butt!! Then we start the impressive part: the cables and shaping up the leg! I'm not sure how easy on the brain it will be to try to do all that cabling on the bus. I am thinking of getting a large purse/small bag to facilitate the on-bus knitting. I figure I'll get something biggish to hold the project, charts, stitch markers, along with my usual purse contents and my headphones for my mp3 phone. Oh, cheap vinyl purses! How happy you make me when you actually look like leather!

In other news: I love Vietnamese food. L-o-v-e it. I love that when I go into the little pho shop up the street from our temporary office (where I've been working this week) I get a large pot of tea before I even order. I love the enormous, two-meal-servings, "small" bowls of pho. I love the tofu in their vegetarian offerings. I love that my enormous meals come to way less than $10. I love that the guy who runs the place is so nice and pleasant and friendly and knows me already. I love it!

Wembley pic!



It's horribly blurry, I know. She wouldn't stay still, and my phone-camera has pretty horrendous shutter delay. But doesn't she look like she has a giant smile, a la Dr. Teeth of the Muppet Show?! That was her birthday gift earlier this month (yes, I bought my dog a birthday gift, you want to make something of it?) and she loves it. She particularly likes the squeaky tongue!

I have sunshine-y plans!

This weekend was more like two work days. We had our dance school exams! My students all did fairly well, I think (hard to say, as I wasn't in the room of course, and the examiner doesn't give the teachers too many hints on the day of the exams. But I'm hopeful for my girls. I had a good time out at the studio, and all the extra time I spent with my teacher/boss was a real delight, and I feel as thought I truly got to know her better.

And she made me a little offer. Our performing troupe is going on a trip to Russia to dance at a multicultural dance festival (the MacCulloch dancers have been to China, Spain, Belgium - twice, I believe, - France, Mexico - twice, - Scotland several times, Bulgaria...) and this year's group of travellers is sadly lacking in highland dancers. Am I sure I wouldn't like to go? The only reason I hadn't agreed to go was financial, but now I have a good job, and three weeks vacation annually. So sometime this week I'll see if I can use a week or so at the end of the summer!!! How excited am I at the possibility that I'll dance in Red Square?! Oh wow!!

I got a fair bit of knitting done, as well. I am about three inches past the toe increases of the FBIL's kilt hose. I'm hoping that the next few days will see the total completion of the feet; I'm really looking forward to the pattern-work on the legs of the stockings.

And I'm watching Houseboat. Cary Grant and Sophia Loren...charming!

Oh, right...the sunshine-y plans: I'm planning to take pics of the kilt stockings during my lunch hours downtown. Prepare yourself!

Contest!

To the right, you will see the button for K.A.Y.E - the Kootchie Awareness Yarn Extravaganza. I was fortunate to be the winner of the January drawing by the lovely Bezzie. And I received this:

It's lovely yarn, but I'm not sure what to do with it! I believe I have about 550yds-1/4lb of Midnight Celestial Sock Yarn from Mystical Creation Yarns. It's lovely, sproingy yarn. But do I knit socks, and what pattern? Or do I knit something else, maybe use it in a cardigan somehow? I can't decide.

So this is what I'm doing. Contest! You send me an email at darlene.mcleod@rogers.com with your suggestions for what I should do with the yarn, and the winner will be the person whose project idea I choose. The prize: a set of stitch markers in a fulled and embroidered stitch marker pocket.

Put on your thinking caps!

Keyword hits

I just checked out my site stats, and I was surprised and very proud of some of the hits that have brought people to my site.

"Emily Hilscher"

"jon woodward toronto globe mail"

"universal sock calculator"

"iolanthe"

"blocking dream swatch"

"korea virginia tech apology"

All of a sudden, my blog seems so topical!

Shruggin' along

So it's still raining, I'm still cold, I'm still working on the shrug, and I'm still watching Lord of the Rings (come on, it's like 11 hours long! Bezzie, if you ever feel like coming to Canada, you can make all the smart-ass comments you want. The Man does it all the time; I'm very accustomed to it!). But I'm hopeful that the shrug will be done by this evening. Sort of depends on whether or not I end up teaching at the studio tonight.

You know what I am really looking forward to doing? Getting a few new knitting books! I leafed through Alterknits when I was at Michael's picking up some el-cheapo stitch markers the other day, and it had some neat ideas in it. Possibly nothing I really need a book to cook up, though; I was digging the ribbon-laced sweaters and wristwarmers, but I'm pretty sure I could add eyelets to my knitting. Still, I may need to make a little trip to Chapters soon to at least ogle some books.

Back to the shrug.

May showers bring...May lawns??

I am cold. It has been very rainy for the past 12 hours, and now I am chiiiilly. So I will snuggle up in my first sweater, all wool, and my puppy, with a cup of hot chocolate, my latest project (which I will unveil within the next day or so, hopefully with an accurate free pattern as well!) and watch Lord of the Rings. It's been several months since I watched it, and I love this movie. Howard Shore: will you compose a soundtrack to my life?

Updates: The birthday scarf is coming along twice as slowly as it did the first time. I cast on twice as many stitches, so that tracks. The alpaca stockings....totally stalled. I'm starting to wonder if perhaps I should just knit a teeny shrug out of the alpaca and forget the stockings for now. Hrm. Ummm, I have no other projects on the go, although I have just remembered a promise to a friend as yet unfulfilled. I should get on that....

Cheerful days to you!

The strange irony of employment

I, my dear and lovely reader, have a job.

It would seem that, just as the wonderful knittyheads predicted, there was a delay in contacting me following my interview a week and a half ago, and the people at Citizens for Public Justice think I'm the best candidate for the position! Yay!! I'll be working in the fundraising department, doing some data entry and some correspondence drafting. Might be a little boring at times, but I will always be doing something that will be helping other people, worthy people, refugee people! So I will be able to forebear. I am very excited! I baked some celebratory cookies, thus successfully gaining back, in one day, four of the six pounds I had lost. Well done. Oh, and if the dough looks weird, it's because it was weird. That reduced-fat, non-hydrogenated margarine may be good for reducing guilt when making good, stove-top popcorn (with an old-timey crank!) but it is not good for making cookies. Use butter. Or heart-stopping, artery-destroying hydrogenated Crisco. They're cookies, for goodness sake; they aren't supposed to be healthy!



Do you know what this whole job thing means? Ok, it means a lot of things, but do you know what small list of incredibly fabulous things it means?! Let me tell you (in no particular order; I'm honestly not sure which excites me most):

1. We can pay off our debts, including my moderately-giant student loans! No more collection agents' letters or calls!

2. I can look forward to seeing friends from university without having to anticipate how best to phrase "teaching dance classes and seamstressing" so it sounds impressive and not entirely sad.

3. I can buy YARN. And actually pay for patterns, rather than only relying on what I can find on the inter-web and what I try to cook up in my wacky brain.

4. We can pay off our maxed-out credit card (calm down, our limit is a grand, but we maxed it out in wedding business two and a half years ago, and have barely touched the principle since. Boo) and then, with my new employment, can use it for moderate purchases online (read: fancy schmancy yarn from far away! And cheap online deals! Elann, here I come!) which we can then immediately pay off. I'm not sure which excites me more: the prospect of a growing stash (well, actually having a stash) or being able to pay for things outright, rather than constantly juggling payments. Both are so attractive!

All that said, I'm mostly looking forward to getting the monkey named Ontario Government Student Loan off my back, and putting some money away. Maybe an RRSP, which we can then put toward the down-payment on a house. Or just rent someplace downtown. Because let me tell you, I have had enough with the suburbs. Am I old? Am I boring? Have I given up on life? No, to all of the above. So what am I doing surrounded by people who are all of those things, I ask you?

For this summer, at least, we are staying here. I've finished most of the work on the backyard; let's see if it actually sprouts! We pulled that damned dogwood stump out of the top left corner on Saturday (huzzah!) and regraded the whole yard, then seeded. Hopefully the grass will grow soon. I'd like to use my little yard! I have designs on getting two cedar lounge chairs, and a little bistro table for the corner. Maybe I'll hang some flower boxes from the fence, and maybe some sort of outdoor art on the side "walls". Ooh, maybe some pretty outdoor lights! I love Christmas lights; I'd leave them up in the house all year if I could. Hey, why not? I'm artsy; shouldn't I be eclectic and strange sometimes?

Since the last few/bunch of posts have been image-less, I am remedying that error today. Here we have the backyard, pre-stump-removal, and post-stump-removal. Wembley has inserted herself into both pictures, attempting to make herself as filthy as possible. This dog loves to hang around in dirt more than I can tell you. She is a white dog. She gets very, very grimy.


On to the subject of knitting, and the strange irony of employment. Now that I will (soon) be able to afford to buy yarn, I will have a greatly reduced quantity of time in which to play with my yarn. Boo to that, but yay to the yarn - hence the irony. My LYS - which I adore - always has yarn at a much-reduced price in baskets on the floor. And lookey what I found yesterday!



Yup, Rowan! For $5 a skein! I bought two skeins (Mum helped me ball one yesterday afternoon, the other is waiting patiently) with which to knit a teeny shoulder shrug. My thought is this: I live waaaay out in Orleans (suck!) but my office will be downtown in the core (right near Elgin! And my friend Katie! And her daughter Isla! And their church with the fabulous acoustic! And the possibility of noon-hour rehearsals if the church will let me!). Long bus-rides are in the offing, in the heat of the summer. So light summer tops and dresses are in my future, but I feel very strongly about greatly exposed shoulders in the office (id est, they are generally rather inappropriate), hence the shrugs. I'll knit various little shrugs to wear in the morning when it's brisk-er and in the office, and then at noon and in the afternoon on my way home from work, I can take the shrug off to bear (bare!) the heat. Lovely, cheap Rowan yarn, small, transportable, practical project for the bus...it's heaven.



I picked up some - four balls! - of el-cheapo sock yarn for the FBIL's wedding kilt hose. I really need to get started on those, pronto. I have another ball or two in the same colour, but possibly a different dye-lot. No problem: I can use them for the turn-down cuff, so any slight difference won't be an issue. I'll keep you posted on how they go. I'm a little terrified...but reassured. They are just socks, just cabled socks. Besides, he has these skinny little legs; I won't need to do much shaping on the calf at all to have them fit.

Oh, yeah, the concert. It went well! I finished the blue satin in time (phew!) and sounded pretty good. I was sick, and I definitely noticed the difference between singing healthy and singing feeling the way I did, but it was still pretty good. Nah, it was awesome! Papagena was so much fun! Getting to really play a part, not just sing it, was super, and my baritone, Thomas, who sang Papageno was superb. We got an ovation as we went scampering out of the hall at the end of our duet: very cool. Carmen was a blast. I did my best to really 'sell' it, and my acting friend with the college diploma in theatre said I did well, which I take as a very high compliment. She's fabulously honest. The other duet and trio I did were...alright. Not perfect, but not bad. All in all, I'm proud of myself, and really looking forward to singing again, soon. Maybe this summer. Ooh, now I can actually bankroll my own project! Exciting!

We close with a Wembley-pic. It was her birthday on Thursday. She's a big girl of two. I am going to miss my long days at home with her when I start my job. Maybe, when we move downtown and I can walk to work, she can be the office dog and come with me! Here, she is in one of her favourite hangouts: 'daddy's' knee. Such a snuggler...

In which the author wishes she had WiFi so she could post from the outdoors

Remember yesterday? Well, I decided that it was time to get off my tuckus and do something about that yard. Since the dogwood was taken down, it's looking a much more usable size (it was a really big dogwood!) so I'm feeling rather motivated. I'm currently on my little mid-morning coffee-and-biscotti-and-internet break. I'll tell you my plan, then get back'on out there!

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Alright, I just wasted like 15 minutes trying to draw you a picture using Paint of my backyard. Didn't work. Anyway, it's small, with a garden bed on each side of the yard that curves, so the corners are freaking deep (too deep. I don't want to wade around in the plants to weed them). The dogwood was in one of the corners. So I'm making that bed about 1/5th the size it was, regrading and reseeding. The result should be grass, lots more of it, and lower maintenance. I also picked up some seeds for climbing plants - Nasturtiums, Morning Glories and Scarlet Runner pole beans - to cover the unattractive wooden "fences" that wall in the yard. Hopefully I have enough sun. I probably don't, but what's a few seeds in the hopes of pretty?

I got a call from the place I interviewed last week. We shall see. I'm starting to wonder if it really is the perfect job for me. The busy season for the position is November - March, during which I really can't take any days off. It's also a busy rehearsal/performing period, and if I am lucky enough to get a principal role doing Gilbert and Sullivan next season, I may need a week or two of reduced hours, not mandatory overtime. Meh. We'll see.

I haven't had a pic for a post in a while. Keep forgetting to download them from the phone/camera. Maybe later today. And I know, I know, I still haven't really posted on Saturday's concert. Honestly, I'm still trying to find a picture of myself in which I don't look positively, well, fat. I'm not, I know I'm not, but everyone who took pics managed to get me looking chubby. Not good for the self-esteem, let me tell you. At least my new trend to eating lots of raw veggies and working outside seems to be working: 5lbs down! Doesn't help with how I looked last weekend though. Maybe I'll find a screen shot that will work....

Must go play in the dirt now!

Well this sucks.

*Direct quote from the opera concert on Saturday, after I (Papagena) am told I cannot make-out with the new-found love-of-my-life, Papageno (Thomas Franzky, a truly dear baritone). I cheated it out to the audience and huffed off-stage like a melodramatic adolescent. It drew laughs, as intended, and was fun. Soon as I get the DVD, I'll do a little Youtubin' and post it here.*

The weather is beautiful today. As it was yesterday. Seriously, it's 25C, with light clouds: perfect weather. I want to be outside. But sit in my back yard which is full of yard waste (we destroyed the dogwood!! Ha haa!!! It is GONE!!!!) and sadly lacking in grass (too much freaking shade from that freaking dogwood. But it's gone now! Boo-yah!) and the size of a postage stamp. And I can't listen to Lucia Popp singing Strauss and Orff and Dvorak when I'm outside, so here I am, in my dark house, wishing I had a decent yard, or a nearby cafe with a patio to sit and read and have a drink and hang out with the puppy. But no, I live in the burbs, where there is no life, no energy, no vibrancy. Boo.

I haven't heard from the people who interviewed me a week ago. They said they'd be in contact by Monday. It's Wednesday. No way I got the job. I'm really starting to think I should just bite the bullet, wait tables, and be done with it. Is it entirely pathetic for a married 26/7 (birthday's next month) from an "elite" undergrad programme and aspirations of operatic stardom to wait tables like a highschool student? Or is it just in-keeping with the performer lifestyle?

Does anyone, ANYONE, have any brilliant ideas as to how I can avoid collection agents coming after me for debts I cannot pay? I hadn't realised that the only thing keeping me from worrying about all this student debt disaster was the stress of the upcoming shows. Now that they are done, I have nothing but time to think about how entirely destroyed everything is. I am filled with so much hope, and so much despair, at the same time. I hope for my performing potential and future, and I despair of ever being able to afford the training and the agency necessary to make it happen. I'm not depressed at all, just very very worried. All the time.

Wow, this post was not supposed to be this heavy. See, this is how my mind works now. Always coming back to the heavy stuff. No fun. But hey! Sunshine and leaves and I spent three hours with my friend Katie and her daughter yesterday, outside, walking around downtown. Isla is seriously, one of the most fun children to be around since...ever! She's very interactive and just a delight. She has crazy curly hair, courtesy of her daddy and lovely blue eyes and an enormous smile. She's a joy.

Let's end there, with sunshine and babies. Ah.